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Monday, June 27, 2011
Relationships
It sucks not to be able to take a look at your relationship from an outsider's viewpoint
"Are you happy?" may be the easy question to ask but it's never that simple is it?
How invested are you in the relationship? All in or only giving some of yourself
Do your friends and family see that you are a better person with this significant other?
Can you picture your life without them?
How many times do you feel bad, cry, or are just stressed because of this person?
General rule of thumb is if you are upset all the time then it isn't right
That may be hard to accept but once you do you can start to heal, repair some emotional damage, and eventually move on and enjoy someone else that will make you feel great!
Do you two enjoy things together? Similar hobbies?
You need things in common to sustain a relationship
Look at your answers to these questions and really evaluate how this love is affecting you
Remember YOU are very important too, sometimes it's ok to be a little selfish
Try writing down a pro-con list of all the qualities and situations you've had with this person and see which side is larger. Writing it down can help show you from an outside view rather than all in your head.
Try using logic and emotion in a balanced way. Your feelings will certainly put up a battle in a relationship but don't let them get the better of you, you're in charge here!
Remember it's not all about if you love the person or not because it's easy to love someone that is completely wrong for you!
Ask me for relationship help! I'm super glad to advise anyone!
Email me: kissynicole2@live.com
Instant De-Stressers!
- Go outside
- Call/text someone you love
- Listen to calming music
- Write down what you are stressed about on a piece of paper then burn it!
- Draw some curvy lines (doesn't have to be a masterpiece)
- Take a few really slow deep breaths
- Take a steamy hot bath
- Close your eyes and imagine a beach, forest, any calming nature scene
- Make up plans on how to change that stressful situation
- Play or pet your doggy!
- Eat some hot soup and watch a funny movie
- Check out YouTube for some relaxing nature videos
- Think positive thoughts, think about what you love, think about who you love, think on a good thought and don't let it go!
- Email me! haha
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