When Is It Over?

How can we know when a relationship is over?

That sounds silly and easy but come on, figuring out when to call it quits is nearly impossible

And the longer a bad relationship gets drawn out, the more it hurts

Good thing is- almost all of us have battled with this

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help determine, Over or not?

• Are you more often happy or sad when with this person?
• Is it easy to get into fights?
• Does he/she normally really hurt your feelings and not even seem to care?
• Do you see a long future with this person?
• Do you share similar values/life goals?

In the end it's only going to be you and that other person deciding what to do

No one can really have an opinion about it because, they aren't in the relationship too!

So don't let what others say bother you

And if you are REALLY in a sticky situation (the relationship is 50% good 50% bad)

Ask yourself

Is the 50% bad worth going through to get the 50% good part?

If yes then congrats!

Remember: don't stick around in a relationship that you know isn't getting any better

A Kiss For You!

Love,

KissyNicole

P.S.- No one has to be shunned out of your life if you decide they are not good for you, there always is the option of being just friends :)

Negative People

Do you know anyone that can just turn any situation into a crappy one?

They are absolutely the most annoying people to be around!! All they care about is drama

Not matter what, it is like it's physically impossible for them to just laugh something off and get over it

Keep yourself AWAY from people like that

and if you ARE like that, STOP immediately, you're pushing people away from you

Everyone wants to be around people that  make them laugh and that inspire them to see the good in everything

Be that person or get to know people like that

Who you surround yourself with greatly effects you

So.....

Be around good and good will come to you!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Follow Your Dreams

Anything you wanted to do but just never did it?

Have a secret passion for something but you never followed through with it?

Use all your time here on this earth chasing or doing what you love because if you don't
Then what's the point of even doing anything at all

Doing what you love makes your job not feel like a job

It makes all your time fun

It makes you feel fulfilled and happy

It is maybe the best thing you can do for yourself

so.......

DO IT

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Kids Are Smarter Than Adults

Kids are younger than us yet they know more than us

They live happy carefree adventurous lives
while most of us struggle to be content and stress free

We have a lot to learn from children for sure!

But remember we were all kids once, we have the experience and knowledge to go back to that state of mind

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Email me, let me know what your thinking! kissynicole2@live.com

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Opinions

Everyone has an opinion about everything

Everyone has a specific view on a subject

There are millions of different opinions out there

So in the big scheme of things, who is really right?

Can anyone ever be right?

Is there such a thing as being "right" on something?

I say listen to yourself and what you think, that is the best way to live your life

And if people think you are "wrong" there will always be a handful of others thinking you're "right"

So be happy doing your own thing!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

P.S. How about this: WE ALL ARE RIGHT! Now there is nothing to fight about ha

Greener Grass

Listen up!

Never compare your life to others and go wishing you had their lives instead of yours

Because the grass is always going to be greener somewhere else

There will always be someone richer, more successful, happier, more beautiful than you, and more "SOMETHING" than you

Appreciate what you have because there could be someone out there wishing they had your life
Your house, your job, your kids

We all have lives worth envying by others!
Enjoy your own life, it's much more fun that way


(and guess what, by enjoying your own life, others will wish they had your life!)

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Settling In A Relationship

Why do we always settle?

Most relationships today have negative answers to "Do they make me happy?" "Do they respect me?" or "Do we have the same values?" "Am I satisfied in this relationship?"

There is a long list of fundamental questions to ask in a relationship to determine whether or not it is worth your time

Yes love is a big part but that's not all!

You could love someone who doesn't even like you so easily

It is about taking a look at how you feel in the relationship, if you feel amazing and great then it probably is

But if you are plagued with worries and stress then why stick around?

Life's short and wasting time with a person that doesn't deserve your time is stupid

We shouldn't settle for anyone, we should feel lucky!

Analyze the different parts of your relationship, each others values, each others flaws, look at how well you two work together

Remember it's not about being clones, it's about compatibility

Take an outside look at the quality of the relationship and be critical instead of lenient

Ask yourself obvious questions like if you are happy, if your needs are being satisfied

And just do not settle! The bond won't last that way and it is NOT worth it

A Kiss For You!

Email me with relationship questions! kissnicole2@live.com

Love,
KissyNicole

Ever Felt Truly Alone?

Have you ever felt truly alone?

Not just alone at the time but like really alone alone

No one to express your feelings to, no one to confide in

No one you can really ask for help

Well here is some good news!

We all feel like that sometimes

And I'm here to be that person to talk to

About anything you need too!!

Loneliness is the worst, trust me, I know....

So I have made myself available to anyone who needs it!

Shoot me an email about whatever
kissynicole2@live.com

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Hello Again ;)

So I haven't been writing posts for a while, sorry!

There have been lots of things to sort out in my head

Relationships, Love, Friends, My Self Worth....

All flooding in at once!

Ever have that feeling?

The feeling where life throws a whole bunch of things your way and your head is just spinning from all the new information

The main thing I want to focus on is our own self worth

I believe a huge part of this comes from our parents and how high up on the pedestal they put us

At a young age if you believe you aren't worth anything, then you keep thinking that

Even if it's in the very back of your mind, it still can be there

And not just parents, anyone who put us down and we accepted it as truth

But listen to where your self worth is coming from, it usually is negative!

Stop that negative process!
We CAN do what we want most in life
and we WILL


nothing is stopping you but yourself!


More on this later!! :)

Word Journal

Here is a great tip to keep your goals in sight and keep you in a good mood!

Take some sort of scrapbook, Just a book with a lot of blank white pages

Everyday write in it words

The words can be colorful or plain, whatever suits you

Make one page about your dreams
It could say "Fashion career, family, nice house etc etc"

Use words to describe the life you want (make them all positive)

Then everyday use your creativity to write a page with just random words on things you like or would like!

And I don't mean writing as in writing a story

I mean just one phrase each, floating around, like the dream board only with just words!

Then whenever you want you can look at these words and visualize them in your mind

Seeing what you want outside your head helps you stay focused on them!

This scrapbook can be a private little pick-me-up and reminder of your future :)

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Hate Nice Relationships

Nice good wonderful but not "perfect" relationships are SO darn hard to let go off

It wasn't all good so you know you have to stop being together

But it wasn't all bad so you feel like letting go of that good part is so painful and difficult to do

It is much easier to let go of an asshole!
You can watch them walk away like "Glad that's over!"

But with these pesky "really good when it was good but bad when it was bad" relationships, they get stuck onto you like super glue

It is like your heart gets ripped in half, into totally equal parts

Like you love this that and the other about the person then there is that one or two things.....
Those things you can not stand

And then you think about breaking up....

This can make you flip flop for months! Even years!

Too bad there isn't a relationship fairy to tell you which decision is the right one for you!

Luckily I'm here to lend a hand to the utterly conflicted!

Remember: Only you can really know what goes on between the two of you so take what others say light hearted 

I am still here for advice anytime! Let me know and I can do my best to help!


A kiss for you!


Love,
KissyNicole
kissynicole2@live.com

Depression Is Conquerable

Depression, actual depression, not just "being sad" is tough
It can consume a person and lead to their death in some cases

And it isn't really talked about all that often

but why? a lot of us have had that really dark time in our lives
this is a some what common thing here!

What is hard though is when you can't get out of it
When you really have lost all hope
Lost friends, lost family, lost everything that ever meant anything to you

People that go through that need help

I have had my own problems with depression for maybe 5 years?
It was such a dark time I can't remember time, a month could feel like years and time was just all a mess
Everything was a mess!

It is the worst place to be in
A kind of prisoner in your own mind
Your negative or numbed out thoughts control you
And they can get this unrelenting hold on your spirit
Like you are not you anymore
Like you died and were no longer there

So awful!

No one should stay stuck in that

The amazing news though is that it can be conquered
And the new outlook on life you will have after will be so much more valuable than people who have not experienced this profound hurdle

The first few steps have to be reaching out to someone, anyone, even a stranger, maybe even me!

You are worth the effort it takes to cure the depression

And it is not as hard as it may seem, I promise

Depression is not this impossible thing to overcome
Don't look at it that way, Look at it in a temporary way like "this is terrible, but it will pass"

Be your own mirror
Look at how you think
Look at how you speak to others
Look at your life

Recognize that, that life is not good for you and that it must change now


You can ask me for help with this issue or check out these two links to great information

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm

You don't have to be "diagnosed" to start trying to help yourself out
But as some advice, when you can not cure yourself, look to outside help like a doctor
Sometimes it's all just your darn hormones acting up in a weird way
But when it's all your thoughts, YOU have the power to change that and get better

Everyone deserves a happy life, everyone!
So start making the steps you need to take and just do it

I've done it and you can too!

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Free Advice!!

I give free personal advice to anyone that emails me! :)
Love you!
KissyNicole

A Wonderful Thought......

A wonderful thought just popped into my head.....

When striving for your biggest most amazing fantastic dreams that would make you the happiest person alive,

You don't need to know how you will get there

That's the beauty of the universe, it figures out the "how"

You just need to get going

Start going down that road to your goals and all these opportunities will appear

Let's say you got in your car and went on a random road trip to go somewhere amazing
But you didn't know exactly how to get there....
You would check for road signs along the way not try and predict where to turn on your own (we aren't all psychic!)
That's half the fun of life, not knowing!

Quit trying to predict the signs and just get going!!!

A kiss for you!! Email me! Don't be shy! kissynicole2@live.com

Love you always,
KissyNicole

You Are Your Biggest Enemy

Have you ever felt like you are your biggest enemy?


Sometimes we are just so mean to ourselves!


We think bad thoughts about our looks, our way of speaking, and our work performance-just to name a few
We can hold ourselves back from doing the things we really want to
Maybe with words like "Everybody will think I am weird"
Which is so odd because did everybody say "You are so weird if you do that...."


Not really


So why do we want to bully ourselves all the time?
Where does that come from?


It's almost like feeling good about yourself has become so rare in our society


It shouldn't be that way


We shouldn't be so hard on ourselves, it makes us unhappy!!


If you are your own biggest advocate then looking for other people's approval is unnecessary


If you took the time to build yourself up and make yourself feel good then nobody can come in the way of your happiness
Try to stop that pattern of thinking where all you do is tear yourself down
Listen to your thoughts and zone in on those pesky negative ones and replace them with good ones!


Controlling how you think takes practice because we are so stuck in our ways


And none of this is to be ashamed of, we all harshly critizice ourselves! You're not alone


Stop holding a grudge against yourself for making mistakes! We all make mistakes constantly, there's no avoiding that


Love yourself and everyone else will too! (sounds cheesy but it's absolutely true)
People don't want to have to be a mirror instead of a friend and constantly remind you you don't suck


Just love you and be you!


A kiss for you!


Love,
KissyNicole

Parents

Parents can become the number one hindrance when trying to follow your dreams

They should encourage you but sometimes we aren't so lucky

Our parents can be a big obstacle with all their negativity and close mindedness
They can say things like "You can't do that" or "All you'll ever be is..."

That isn't very nice to hear is it?

It can be very difficult to follow your dreams when all you hear is no no no
You can have all the determination but when your constantly hearing no from someone important in your life, that can really put a downer on things

But you know what?

Their opinion doesn't matter when it is something you love

Never listen to anyone that tells you "you can't" because in all reality they can't and they are trying to project that onto you
Only truly happy people encourage others to be happy too
So if you are around unhappy people, guess what, you will be too

Let them be unhappy, let them do what they want, let them say whatever they want

But you will not be the audience anymore

Let you be your biggest cheerleader and you can make your dreams come true

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Help Someone

Why do people love to hate on one another and make each other become isolated?

It doesn't get anyone anywhere

It just makes someone else's life suck a little more

But come on we are all people, going through the same shit

We have the potential to change someone's life
Start lending a hand to someone who needs it
Show someone you care
Show them they aren't alone
Become a shoulder to cry on

That can mean so much to someone who needs it...

I'm here to cry to, talk to, ask stuff to, whatever

I love you all :)

A kiss for you!
Email me <3

Love,
KissyNicole

Present

One thing you must do to be happy is stay in the present

It is extremely easy to get stuck on the past or get stuck in the "what if" of the future
(I know I have plenty of times....)

That will leave you wanting more always because you can't change either of those

What you can change is the present

The present is right here ready to be mold into whatever you like

Sure future goals are great but not when it becomes obsession and fearful
And sure remembering the past is nice sometimes but again not when it's an obsession

How do you stay in the present? It can be quite tricky

Take a look at what is happening right now
You could be listening to a song, working, playing with your dog, just breathing
Focus on that exact thing you are doing
Don't let anything else come into mind

When you start to practice this and get a firm hold on your thoughts then you can be a much happier and calmer person
Focusing on one thing at a time helps to center yourself immensely

A kiss for you!

Remember you can not have control over the past or future but you do have control over the now

Love,
KissyNicole

Ask me!

Ask me anything you'd like!!!!

email: kissynicole2@live.com

muah!

Changes

Changes can be scary
They can come out of no where
It is a very surreal feeling when you know things will never be the same again

That can be hard to deal with sometimes
The main reason people struggle with change is they don't want to accept it

Once you accept the change, you don't have to like it necessarily, but just accept things are now totally different
That will help you cope with that strong change

Imagine your new life with this change (try to think positively)
Look at the change as it came for a reason, maybe you weren't doing something right?

Change gives us a little push into a certain direction
Figure out where this change is pushing you to go
Maybe it was made to make you a stronger person
Maybe to show you that lover wasn't right for you
Maybe to show you that job isn't for you
Maybe to push you into a better life

Think of change in a positive way like "Great! Now I can start a new chapter in my life"
The past is over now you can move on to being a happier, better, you :)

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole