Why do we always settle?
Most relationships today have negative answers to "Do they make me happy?" "Do they respect me?" or "Do we have the same values?" "Am I satisfied in this relationship?"
There is a long list of fundamental questions to ask in a relationship to determine whether or not it is worth your time
Yes love is a big part but that's not all!
You could love someone who doesn't even like you so easily
It is about taking a look at how you feel in the relationship, if you feel amazing and great then it probably is
But if you are plagued with worries and stress then why stick around?
Life's short and wasting time with a person that doesn't deserve your time is stupid
We shouldn't settle for anyone, we should feel lucky!
Analyze the different parts of your relationship, each others values, each others flaws, look at how well you two work together
Remember it's not about being clones, it's about compatibility
Take an outside look at the quality of the relationship and be critical instead of lenient
Ask yourself obvious questions like if you are happy, if your needs are being satisfied
And just do not settle! The bond won't last that way and it is NOT worth it
A Kiss For You!
Email me with relationship questions! kissnicole2@live.com
Love,
KissyNicole
Showing posts with label break up. Show all posts
Showing posts with label break up. Show all posts
Friday, August 5, 2011
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Break Up
Wow a break up is so hard to deal with!
It can even be in your favor yet still you find yourself missing that person all the time
It is like your mind thinks in "good" mode when you break up
All you can remember is the good things!!
But honestly there was a break up for a reason
And that reason needs to be accepted and believed to be truth or else your head will go crazy spinning around trying to get that person back
It is a sad thing to deal with but as one goes almost always another follows that makes you happy again :)
Keep hope alive that you will move on and don't try to move on as quickly as possible
Give yourself a good amount of time so that the next relationship isn't flawed by the old one
Email me if you need help during a break up!
A kiss for you! I love you!
Love,
KissyNicole
It can even be in your favor yet still you find yourself missing that person all the time
It is like your mind thinks in "good" mode when you break up
All you can remember is the good things!!
But honestly there was a break up for a reason
And that reason needs to be accepted and believed to be truth or else your head will go crazy spinning around trying to get that person back
It is a sad thing to deal with but as one goes almost always another follows that makes you happy again :)
Keep hope alive that you will move on and don't try to move on as quickly as possible
Give yourself a good amount of time so that the next relationship isn't flawed by the old one
Email me if you need help during a break up!
A kiss for you! I love you!
Love,
KissyNicole
Monday, July 11, 2011
Love Lost
Losing someone you love like in a break up can be hard to cope with
Sometimes break ups are ok and you can deal with it because you know it's the right thing to do
But sometimes you watch that person over the course of your relationship fall out of love with you
Like a slow-motion car crash
Your gut is wrenching with anticipation of what you know will happen
That can be one of the most painful things to go through because of how slow and torturous it is!
Good news is that you're not alone if this has happened to you
And the other good news is that it isn't the end of the world
This person may have been "One in a million....." to you
But guess what, you have 999,999 more people to check out too! ha
No really! There are WAY more than just nine hundred thousand people out there
There are millions!
And guess what else, those are some pretty good odds to find another that fits you better than the last one did
So take your time and start looking for that better individual that will make you happier than you've ever been!
A kiss for you!
Love,
KissyNicole
Sometimes break ups are ok and you can deal with it because you know it's the right thing to do
But sometimes you watch that person over the course of your relationship fall out of love with you
Like a slow-motion car crash
Your gut is wrenching with anticipation of what you know will happen
That can be one of the most painful things to go through because of how slow and torturous it is!
Good news is that you're not alone if this has happened to you
And the other good news is that it isn't the end of the world
This person may have been "One in a million....." to you
But guess what, you have 999,999 more people to check out too! ha
No really! There are WAY more than just nine hundred thousand people out there
There are millions!
And guess what else, those are some pretty good odds to find another that fits you better than the last one did
So take your time and start looking for that better individual that will make you happier than you've ever been!
A kiss for you!
Love,
KissyNicole
Saturday, July 9, 2011
Hate Nice Relationships
Nice good wonderful but not "perfect" relationships are SO darn hard to let go off
It wasn't all good so you know you have to stop being together
But it wasn't all bad so you feel like letting go of that good part is so painful and difficult to do
It is much easier to let go of an asshole!
You can watch them walk away like "Glad that's over!"
But with these pesky "really good when it was good but bad when it was bad" relationships, they get stuck onto you like super glue
It is like your heart gets ripped in half, into totally equal parts
Like you love this that and the other about the person then there is that one or two things.....
Those things you can not stand
And then you think about breaking up....
This can make you flip flop for months! Even years!
Too bad there isn't a relationship fairy to tell you which decision is the right one for you!
Luckily I'm here to lend a hand to the utterly conflicted!
Remember: Only you can really know what goes on between the two of you so take what others say light hearted
I am still here for advice anytime! Let me know and I can do my best to help!
A kiss for you!
Love,
KissyNicole
kissynicole2@live.com
It wasn't all good so you know you have to stop being together
But it wasn't all bad so you feel like letting go of that good part is so painful and difficult to do
It is much easier to let go of an asshole!
You can watch them walk away like "Glad that's over!"
But with these pesky "really good when it was good but bad when it was bad" relationships, they get stuck onto you like super glue
It is like your heart gets ripped in half, into totally equal parts
Like you love this that and the other about the person then there is that one or two things.....
Those things you can not stand
And then you think about breaking up....
This can make you flip flop for months! Even years!
Too bad there isn't a relationship fairy to tell you which decision is the right one for you!
Luckily I'm here to lend a hand to the utterly conflicted!
Remember: Only you can really know what goes on between the two of you so take what others say light hearted
I am still here for advice anytime! Let me know and I can do my best to help!
A kiss for you!
Love,
KissyNicole
kissynicole2@live.com
Depression Is Conquerable
Depression, actual depression, not just "being sad" is tough
It can consume a person and lead to their death in some cases
And it isn't really talked about all that often
but why? a lot of us have had that really dark time in our lives
this is a some what common thing here!
What is hard though is when you can't get out of it
When you really have lost all hope
Lost friends, lost family, lost everything that ever meant anything to you
People that go through that need help
I have had my own problems with depression for maybe 5 years?
It was such a dark time I can't remember time, a month could feel like years and time was just all a mess
Everything was a mess!
It is the worst place to be in
A kind of prisoner in your own mind
Your negative or numbed out thoughts control you
And they can get this unrelenting hold on your spirit
Like you are not you anymore
Like you died and were no longer there
So awful!
No one should stay stuck in that
The amazing news though is that it can be conquered
And the new outlook on life you will have after will be so much more valuable than people who have not experienced this profound hurdle
The first few steps have to be reaching out to someone, anyone, even a stranger, maybe even me!
You are worth the effort it takes to cure the depression
And it is not as hard as it may seem, I promise
Depression is not this impossible thing to overcome
Don't look at it that way, Look at it in a temporary way like "this is terrible, but it will pass"
Be your own mirror
Look at how you think
Look at how you speak to others
Look at your life
Recognize that, that life is not good for you and that it must change now
You can ask me for help with this issue or check out these two links to great information
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm
You don't have to be "diagnosed" to start trying to help yourself out
But as some advice, when you can not cure yourself, look to outside help like a doctor
Sometimes it's all just your darn hormones acting up in a weird way
But when it's all your thoughts, YOU have the power to change that and get better
Everyone deserves a happy life, everyone!
So start making the steps you need to take and just do it
I've done it and you can too!
A kiss for you!
Love,
KissyNicole
Monday, July 4, 2011
Monday, June 27, 2011
Relationships
It sucks not to be able to take a look at your relationship from an outsider's viewpoint
"Are you happy?" may be the easy question to ask but it's never that simple is it?
How invested are you in the relationship? All in or only giving some of yourself
Do your friends and family see that you are a better person with this significant other?
Can you picture your life without them?
How many times do you feel bad, cry, or are just stressed because of this person?
General rule of thumb is if you are upset all the time then it isn't right
That may be hard to accept but once you do you can start to heal, repair some emotional damage, and eventually move on and enjoy someone else that will make you feel great!
Do you two enjoy things together? Similar hobbies?
You need things in common to sustain a relationship
Look at your answers to these questions and really evaluate how this love is affecting you
Remember YOU are very important too, sometimes it's ok to be a little selfish
Try writing down a pro-con list of all the qualities and situations you've had with this person and see which side is larger. Writing it down can help show you from an outside view rather than all in your head.
Try using logic and emotion in a balanced way. Your feelings will certainly put up a battle in a relationship but don't let them get the better of you, you're in charge here!
Remember it's not all about if you love the person or not because it's easy to love someone that is completely wrong for you!
Ask me for relationship help! I'm super glad to advise anyone!
Email me: kissynicole2@live.com
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