When Is It Over?

How can we know when a relationship is over?

That sounds silly and easy but come on, figuring out when to call it quits is nearly impossible

And the longer a bad relationship gets drawn out, the more it hurts

Good thing is- almost all of us have battled with this

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help determine, Over or not?

• Are you more often happy or sad when with this person?
• Is it easy to get into fights?
• Does he/she normally really hurt your feelings and not even seem to care?
• Do you see a long future with this person?
• Do you share similar values/life goals?

In the end it's only going to be you and that other person deciding what to do

No one can really have an opinion about it because, they aren't in the relationship too!

So don't let what others say bother you

And if you are REALLY in a sticky situation (the relationship is 50% good 50% bad)

Ask yourself

Is the 50% bad worth going through to get the 50% good part?

If yes then congrats!

Remember: don't stick around in a relationship that you know isn't getting any better

A Kiss For You!

Love,

KissyNicole

P.S.- No one has to be shunned out of your life if you decide they are not good for you, there always is the option of being just friends :)

Honesty

Why is it so hard for people to be HONEST?

Being honest is almost so rare now a days that I just don't even want to trust anymore

People need to teach their kids when they are young to tell the truth no matter what

Not being honest is where girls get their hearts broken, where people get into even deeper trouble, and where trust is lost for a very long time

It is silly to not be truthful

Even to people you don't know

It's a very admirable quality to have, so start possessing it TODAY


Own up for what you've done, or make someone see the real you, all is possible with telling the truth

Save someone heartbreak over finding out you're a liar by NOT doing it

One thing is certainly agreeable by everyone: 


We all would like some more honesty more often!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Check Out Twitter

Twitter is a really fun social networking site that cuts out all the extra stuff like customizing profiles and "walls"

You can go on there and follow your favorite people

For example you can follow your favorite celebrity and see what they are saying instantly

Or you can also follow people who tweet inspirational quotes

That is a real mood booster!

That's very beneficial to your overall health to be reminded every so often of the good things in life

You can also connect with friends

It really is fun

I highly recommend creating a Twitter

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Check out my Twitter! twitter.com/Kissy_Nicole

Disapproval From Others

Hello again!

This particular subject really affects everyone!

It can be so frustrating when others like family or friends don't approve of the way you want to live when you are perfectly happy!

They should be supportive and should love anything you do but....

We are all not so lucky sometimes

Then how can you deal with this disapproval?

If they are willing to shun you and never speak to you again then hey, they are not worth the effort

If they simply lecture you or act differently in a negative way because of this thing or person then there is something you can do

Come up with valid reasons as to why you want to continue this thing and present them to that person in a non-argumentative way

And if that will not convince them then simply stop talking about this subject which they disapprove of

It avoids an argument and you can find someone else to talk to and confide in

Don't lay all your chips in on one person because when they reject you it will be that much more devastating

Instead confide in more than one person so there will always be a listening ear!

If you can't modify someone else, modify yourself because you are all you have control over


and most importantly make it a good habit to surround yourself with supportive loving people, family or friends!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Greener Grass

Listen up!

Never compare your life to others and go wishing you had their lives instead of yours

Because the grass is always going to be greener somewhere else

There will always be someone richer, more successful, happier, more beautiful than you, and more "SOMETHING" than you

Appreciate what you have because there could be someone out there wishing they had your life
Your house, your job, your kids

We all have lives worth envying by others!
Enjoy your own life, it's much more fun that way


(and guess what, by enjoying your own life, others will wish they had your life!)

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Settling In A Relationship

Why do we always settle?

Most relationships today have negative answers to "Do they make me happy?" "Do they respect me?" or "Do we have the same values?" "Am I satisfied in this relationship?"

There is a long list of fundamental questions to ask in a relationship to determine whether or not it is worth your time

Yes love is a big part but that's not all!

You could love someone who doesn't even like you so easily

It is about taking a look at how you feel in the relationship, if you feel amazing and great then it probably is

But if you are plagued with worries and stress then why stick around?

Life's short and wasting time with a person that doesn't deserve your time is stupid

We shouldn't settle for anyone, we should feel lucky!

Analyze the different parts of your relationship, each others values, each others flaws, look at how well you two work together

Remember it's not about being clones, it's about compatibility

Take an outside look at the quality of the relationship and be critical instead of lenient

Ask yourself obvious questions like if you are happy, if your needs are being satisfied

And just do not settle! The bond won't last that way and it is NOT worth it

A Kiss For You!

Email me with relationship questions! kissnicole2@live.com

Love,
KissyNicole

Ever Felt Truly Alone?

Have you ever felt truly alone?

Not just alone at the time but like really alone alone

No one to express your feelings to, no one to confide in

No one you can really ask for help

Well here is some good news!

We all feel like that sometimes

And I'm here to be that person to talk to

About anything you need too!!

Loneliness is the worst, trust me, I know....

So I have made myself available to anyone who needs it!

Shoot me an email about whatever
kissynicole2@live.com

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Love Lost

Losing someone you love like in a break up can be hard to cope with

Sometimes break ups are ok and you can deal with it because you know it's the right thing to do

But sometimes you watch that person over the course of your relationship fall out of love with you

Like a slow-motion car crash

Your gut is wrenching with anticipation of what you know will happen

That can be one of the most painful things to go through because of how slow and torturous it is!

Good news is that you're not alone if this has happened to you
And the other good news is that it isn't the end of the world

This person may have been "One in a million....." to you
But guess what, you have 999,999 more people to check out too! ha

No really! There are WAY more than just nine hundred thousand people out there
There are millions!

And guess what else, those are some pretty good odds to find another that fits you better than the last one did

So take your time and start looking for that better individual that will make you happier than you've ever been!

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Hate Nice Relationships

Nice good wonderful but not "perfect" relationships are SO darn hard to let go off

It wasn't all good so you know you have to stop being together

But it wasn't all bad so you feel like letting go of that good part is so painful and difficult to do

It is much easier to let go of an asshole!
You can watch them walk away like "Glad that's over!"

But with these pesky "really good when it was good but bad when it was bad" relationships, they get stuck onto you like super glue

It is like your heart gets ripped in half, into totally equal parts

Like you love this that and the other about the person then there is that one or two things.....
Those things you can not stand

And then you think about breaking up....

This can make you flip flop for months! Even years!

Too bad there isn't a relationship fairy to tell you which decision is the right one for you!

Luckily I'm here to lend a hand to the utterly conflicted!

Remember: Only you can really know what goes on between the two of you so take what others say light hearted 

I am still here for advice anytime! Let me know and I can do my best to help!


A kiss for you!


Love,
KissyNicole
kissynicole2@live.com

Parents

Parents can become the number one hindrance when trying to follow your dreams

They should encourage you but sometimes we aren't so lucky

Our parents can be a big obstacle with all their negativity and close mindedness
They can say things like "You can't do that" or "All you'll ever be is..."

That isn't very nice to hear is it?

It can be very difficult to follow your dreams when all you hear is no no no
You can have all the determination but when your constantly hearing no from someone important in your life, that can really put a downer on things

But you know what?

Their opinion doesn't matter when it is something you love

Never listen to anyone that tells you "you can't" because in all reality they can't and they are trying to project that onto you
Only truly happy people encourage others to be happy too
So if you are around unhappy people, guess what, you will be too

Let them be unhappy, let them do what they want, let them say whatever they want

But you will not be the audience anymore

Let you be your biggest cheerleader and you can make your dreams come true

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Relationships

Ever wonder if you are in the right relationship?
It sucks not to be able to take a look at your relationship from an outsider's viewpoint
"Are you happy?" may be the easy question to ask but it's never that simple is it?

How invested are you in the relationship? All in or only giving some of yourself

Do your friends and family see that you are a better person with this significant other?

Can you picture your life without them?

How many times do you feel bad, cry, or are just stressed because of this person?
General rule of thumb is if you are upset all the time then it isn't right
That may be hard to accept but once you do you can start to heal, repair some emotional damage, and eventually move on and enjoy someone else that will make you feel great!

Do you two enjoy things together? Similar hobbies?
You need things in common to sustain a relationship

Look at your answers to these questions and really evaluate how this love is affecting you
Remember YOU are very important too, sometimes it's ok to be a little selfish

Try writing down a pro-con list of all the qualities and situations you've had with this person and see which side is larger. Writing it down can help show you from an outside view rather than all in your head.

Try using logic and emotion in a balanced way. Your feelings will certainly put up a battle in a relationship but don't let them get the better of you, you're in charge here!

Remember it's not all about if you love the person or not because it's easy to love someone that is completely wrong for you!

Ask me for relationship help! I'm super glad to advise anyone!
Email me: kissynicole2@live.com