Been So Long....

Been so long since I wrote something

Today is 9/11 and for any American that date sticks out in our minds so strongly

I feel like crying

I hope that those lost do not feel anymore pain or sorrow for what happened and they have successfully moved on

I hope that those living that were effected are able to live a happy life still

I really hope huge crisises like this do NOT happen again

I hope we all realize one day that we all are the same, same humans, same hearts
And because of that similarity we should stand together not apart

All we have to not feel alone is each other

I hope we learn to work together one day and then we will see how powerful we really can be


A Kiss For You

Love,
KissyNicole

When Is It Over?

How can we know when a relationship is over?

That sounds silly and easy but come on, figuring out when to call it quits is nearly impossible

And the longer a bad relationship gets drawn out, the more it hurts

Good thing is- almost all of us have battled with this

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help determine, Over or not?

• Are you more often happy or sad when with this person?
• Is it easy to get into fights?
• Does he/she normally really hurt your feelings and not even seem to care?
• Do you see a long future with this person?
• Do you share similar values/life goals?

In the end it's only going to be you and that other person deciding what to do

No one can really have an opinion about it because, they aren't in the relationship too!

So don't let what others say bother you

And if you are REALLY in a sticky situation (the relationship is 50% good 50% bad)

Ask yourself

Is the 50% bad worth going through to get the 50% good part?

If yes then congrats!

Remember: don't stick around in a relationship that you know isn't getting any better

A Kiss For You!

Love,

KissyNicole

P.S.- No one has to be shunned out of your life if you decide they are not good for you, there always is the option of being just friends :)

Honesty

Why is it so hard for people to be HONEST?

Being honest is almost so rare now a days that I just don't even want to trust anymore

People need to teach their kids when they are young to tell the truth no matter what

Not being honest is where girls get their hearts broken, where people get into even deeper trouble, and where trust is lost for a very long time

It is silly to not be truthful

Even to people you don't know

It's a very admirable quality to have, so start possessing it TODAY


Own up for what you've done, or make someone see the real you, all is possible with telling the truth

Save someone heartbreak over finding out you're a liar by NOT doing it

One thing is certainly agreeable by everyone: 


We all would like some more honesty more often!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Negative People

Do you know anyone that can just turn any situation into a crappy one?

They are absolutely the most annoying people to be around!! All they care about is drama

Not matter what, it is like it's physically impossible for them to just laugh something off and get over it

Keep yourself AWAY from people like that

and if you ARE like that, STOP immediately, you're pushing people away from you

Everyone wants to be around people that  make them laugh and that inspire them to see the good in everything

Be that person or get to know people like that

Who you surround yourself with greatly effects you

So.....

Be around good and good will come to you!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Follow Your Dreams

Anything you wanted to do but just never did it?

Have a secret passion for something but you never followed through with it?

Use all your time here on this earth chasing or doing what you love because if you don't
Then what's the point of even doing anything at all

Doing what you love makes your job not feel like a job

It makes all your time fun

It makes you feel fulfilled and happy

It is maybe the best thing you can do for yourself

so.......

DO IT

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Kids Are Smarter Than Adults

Kids are younger than us yet they know more than us

They live happy carefree adventurous lives
while most of us struggle to be content and stress free

We have a lot to learn from children for sure!

But remember we were all kids once, we have the experience and knowledge to go back to that state of mind

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

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Remember

Remember that we are all

beautiful

amazing

funny

lovable

inspiring

intelligent

brave

to someone


A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Disapproval From Others

Hello again!

This particular subject really affects everyone!

It can be so frustrating when others like family or friends don't approve of the way you want to live when you are perfectly happy!

They should be supportive and should love anything you do but....

We are all not so lucky sometimes

Then how can you deal with this disapproval?

If they are willing to shun you and never speak to you again then hey, they are not worth the effort

If they simply lecture you or act differently in a negative way because of this thing or person then there is something you can do

Come up with valid reasons as to why you want to continue this thing and present them to that person in a non-argumentative way

And if that will not convince them then simply stop talking about this subject which they disapprove of

It avoids an argument and you can find someone else to talk to and confide in

Don't lay all your chips in on one person because when they reject you it will be that much more devastating

Instead confide in more than one person so there will always be a listening ear!

If you can't modify someone else, modify yourself because you are all you have control over


and most importantly make it a good habit to surround yourself with supportive loving people, family or friends!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Bad Situations

I'm going to lay it out for you

If you are in a bad situation that you are miserable being in you have options

Change the situation, move away or get a job so you can leave for example

And if you can't change the situation.....

Make it your decision to stop caring

Things can only effect you as much as you let it

Regain that control and stop caring, stop listening, zone out when this bad situation starts to give you stress

The same thing can only upset you so often

Then after a while when the situation doesn't change and you are still getting upset, then it becomes your fault

Take back the control you deserve

Be happy everyone!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

The News And Negativity

Does anyone else see how negative the news is?

It is like they are incapable of reporting the good things that happen

For example recently I have heard the word "debt" maybe a million times on the news
They can not stop talking about how bad the economy is!

If you want to watch TV I suggest you watch happy things

By surrounding ourselves with words like "debt", "death" and other negative things then it subconsciously puts a dark cloud over us

Even if things aren't directly effecting you, our subconscious is still listening and soaks information up like a sponge

Keep the negative things out by making sure you are surrounding yourself with good things like comedies, good friends, pretty music, anything that creates a happy feeling for you

Do this and you will feel much healthier and happier instantly!

A kiss for you!!

Email me: kissynicole2@live.com

Love,
KissyNicole

Your Destiny

Hello!

I haven't written much in the last few days as I have been very sad about Amy Winehouse's death

As much as I hate it I always felt like it was her destiny to be great and then pass to join the other greats that have died young like Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, and Kurt Cobain

They all can finally be in peace and sing together :)

Anyways I could see in her eyes and through her music that she was a tortured soul, as am I

Maybe it was destiny for her to touch the world with her music

Which got me thinking about my own destiny

How about you? Do you feel you were meant to do something?

Hopefully whatever career you have is what you feel deep down you were meant to do, if not, change that immediately!

I believe we were all meant to do something, some talent, some devotion to something that we will have success in no matter what

We must follow that little voice inside us that tells us what we need to do

Find that thing that lights a fire in your heart and never let it go


So although Amy died young, she still showed the world her talent and changed the lives of millions with her music and unique sense of style

That was a HUGE accomplishment, and for that I love her

She will forever motivate me to go for it!

I hope to motivate another.....
And show the world that you aren't alone
And that we all can achieve extraordinary things by following what our heart tells us

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Self Worth

So self worth

How do you see yourself?

You may think you have really good self worth but in reality you could be secretly putting yourself down

In everyday conversations we tend to make jokes about things and ourselves

And sometimes these jokes are actually negative to yourself

For example maybe making a joke about how awful your hair looks that day or joking about how badly you messed up on something

Yes, sometimes we truly are joking but then sometimes we are joking just to appear fine to others

Don't do that!


Make it a habit of catching those nasty little remarks you may have been thinking about you

They seem small and not worth the effort but really all that can build up and in turn effect your self worth

We have all these thoughts in one day, thousands!

And if we are joking or being serious and putting ourselves down that puts our whole life down

Our life around us comes from us!
And if the starting point is bad, the rest will follow

Feeling good about you is the most fundamental part of having an amazing life


No one wants to feel bad about themselves! It is a waste of your time

So look at you

Look at what you think of you

And if there is anything you don't like

Correct it!! Because the only one who can is you!

And take it slow and simple so you won't be overwhelmed :)

P.S. If you need any help on how to fix a specific thing about yourself, feel free to write me an email kissynicole2@live.com

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Hello Again ;)

So I haven't been writing posts for a while, sorry!

There have been lots of things to sort out in my head

Relationships, Love, Friends, My Self Worth....

All flooding in at once!

Ever have that feeling?

The feeling where life throws a whole bunch of things your way and your head is just spinning from all the new information

The main thing I want to focus on is our own self worth

I believe a huge part of this comes from our parents and how high up on the pedestal they put us

At a young age if you believe you aren't worth anything, then you keep thinking that

Even if it's in the very back of your mind, it still can be there

And not just parents, anyone who put us down and we accepted it as truth

But listen to where your self worth is coming from, it usually is negative!

Stop that negative process!
We CAN do what we want most in life
and we WILL


nothing is stopping you but yourself!


More on this later!! :)

My Birthday

It is my birthday today, whoo hoo!!
It's kind of funny how we celebrate them and mark every year we get older

We should base our success on how healthy we are as we age! Not by a silly number

Being healthy can not be taken for granted
It is so precious even though we don't really pay attention to it

It could take years of poor eating and bad habits to affect your health
but when it does, it won't be pretty!

Just because it isn't an instant thing, don't be dumb about your health

Imagine being older hooked up to a breathing tank, relying on it to simply breathe!

then imagine being older jogging in a beautiful forest, breathing in that clean air

Which do you want?

And here is the truth if you want to jog in a forest later in life ha
You need to start now, start eating better and exercising

It really helps your mood, how you feel, overall health, everything!
You will feel amazing if you give up KFC more often lol

There is no two ways about it!
Either do your body good or suffer some painful uncomfortable consequences

We all know what we should be doing for our health
Now let's just DO it already!!!!!

A kiss for you! 


I know my health isn't so great and I'm young so I will be working on that now most definitely


Join me! Email me with your progress or with questions!


Love,
KissyNicole

Love Lost

Losing someone you love like in a break up can be hard to cope with

Sometimes break ups are ok and you can deal with it because you know it's the right thing to do

But sometimes you watch that person over the course of your relationship fall out of love with you

Like a slow-motion car crash

Your gut is wrenching with anticipation of what you know will happen

That can be one of the most painful things to go through because of how slow and torturous it is!

Good news is that you're not alone if this has happened to you
And the other good news is that it isn't the end of the world

This person may have been "One in a million....." to you
But guess what, you have 999,999 more people to check out too! ha

No really! There are WAY more than just nine hundred thousand people out there
There are millions!

And guess what else, those are some pretty good odds to find another that fits you better than the last one did

So take your time and start looking for that better individual that will make you happier than you've ever been!

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Hate Nice Relationships

Nice good wonderful but not "perfect" relationships are SO darn hard to let go off

It wasn't all good so you know you have to stop being together

But it wasn't all bad so you feel like letting go of that good part is so painful and difficult to do

It is much easier to let go of an asshole!
You can watch them walk away like "Glad that's over!"

But with these pesky "really good when it was good but bad when it was bad" relationships, they get stuck onto you like super glue

It is like your heart gets ripped in half, into totally equal parts

Like you love this that and the other about the person then there is that one or two things.....
Those things you can not stand

And then you think about breaking up....

This can make you flip flop for months! Even years!

Too bad there isn't a relationship fairy to tell you which decision is the right one for you!

Luckily I'm here to lend a hand to the utterly conflicted!

Remember: Only you can really know what goes on between the two of you so take what others say light hearted 

I am still here for advice anytime! Let me know and I can do my best to help!


A kiss for you!


Love,
KissyNicole
kissynicole2@live.com

Depression Is Conquerable

Depression, actual depression, not just "being sad" is tough
It can consume a person and lead to their death in some cases

And it isn't really talked about all that often

but why? a lot of us have had that really dark time in our lives
this is a some what common thing here!

What is hard though is when you can't get out of it
When you really have lost all hope
Lost friends, lost family, lost everything that ever meant anything to you

People that go through that need help

I have had my own problems with depression for maybe 5 years?
It was such a dark time I can't remember time, a month could feel like years and time was just all a mess
Everything was a mess!

It is the worst place to be in
A kind of prisoner in your own mind
Your negative or numbed out thoughts control you
And they can get this unrelenting hold on your spirit
Like you are not you anymore
Like you died and were no longer there

So awful!

No one should stay stuck in that

The amazing news though is that it can be conquered
And the new outlook on life you will have after will be so much more valuable than people who have not experienced this profound hurdle

The first few steps have to be reaching out to someone, anyone, even a stranger, maybe even me!

You are worth the effort it takes to cure the depression

And it is not as hard as it may seem, I promise

Depression is not this impossible thing to overcome
Don't look at it that way, Look at it in a temporary way like "this is terrible, but it will pass"

Be your own mirror
Look at how you think
Look at how you speak to others
Look at your life

Recognize that, that life is not good for you and that it must change now


You can ask me for help with this issue or check out these two links to great information

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm

You don't have to be "diagnosed" to start trying to help yourself out
But as some advice, when you can not cure yourself, look to outside help like a doctor
Sometimes it's all just your darn hormones acting up in a weird way
But when it's all your thoughts, YOU have the power to change that and get better

Everyone deserves a happy life, everyone!
So start making the steps you need to take and just do it

I've done it and you can too!

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

A Wonderful Thought......

A wonderful thought just popped into my head.....

When striving for your biggest most amazing fantastic dreams that would make you the happiest person alive,

You don't need to know how you will get there

That's the beauty of the universe, it figures out the "how"

You just need to get going

Start going down that road to your goals and all these opportunities will appear

Let's say you got in your car and went on a random road trip to go somewhere amazing
But you didn't know exactly how to get there....
You would check for road signs along the way not try and predict where to turn on your own (we aren't all psychic!)
That's half the fun of life, not knowing!

Quit trying to predict the signs and just get going!!!

A kiss for you!! Email me! Don't be shy! kissynicole2@live.com

Love you always,
KissyNicole

You Are Your Biggest Enemy

Have you ever felt like you are your biggest enemy?


Sometimes we are just so mean to ourselves!


We think bad thoughts about our looks, our way of speaking, and our work performance-just to name a few
We can hold ourselves back from doing the things we really want to
Maybe with words like "Everybody will think I am weird"
Which is so odd because did everybody say "You are so weird if you do that...."


Not really


So why do we want to bully ourselves all the time?
Where does that come from?


It's almost like feeling good about yourself has become so rare in our society


It shouldn't be that way


We shouldn't be so hard on ourselves, it makes us unhappy!!


If you are your own biggest advocate then looking for other people's approval is unnecessary


If you took the time to build yourself up and make yourself feel good then nobody can come in the way of your happiness
Try to stop that pattern of thinking where all you do is tear yourself down
Listen to your thoughts and zone in on those pesky negative ones and replace them with good ones!


Controlling how you think takes practice because we are so stuck in our ways


And none of this is to be ashamed of, we all harshly critizice ourselves! You're not alone


Stop holding a grudge against yourself for making mistakes! We all make mistakes constantly, there's no avoiding that


Love yourself and everyone else will too! (sounds cheesy but it's absolutely true)
People don't want to have to be a mirror instead of a friend and constantly remind you you don't suck


Just love you and be you!


A kiss for you!


Love,
KissyNicole

You

You are

• Beautiful
• Funny
• Adventurous
• Intelligent
• Sweet
• Powerful
• Imaginative
• Sincere
• Successful
• Loyal
• Self-reliant
• Mature
• Chic
• Healthy

I can guarantee you are at least a few of these! Be glad that you are!

Ask me for any advice! Love you all <3

Love,

KissyNicole