When Is It Over?

How can we know when a relationship is over?

That sounds silly and easy but come on, figuring out when to call it quits is nearly impossible

And the longer a bad relationship gets drawn out, the more it hurts

Good thing is- almost all of us have battled with this

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help determine, Over or not?

• Are you more often happy or sad when with this person?
• Is it easy to get into fights?
• Does he/she normally really hurt your feelings and not even seem to care?
• Do you see a long future with this person?
• Do you share similar values/life goals?

In the end it's only going to be you and that other person deciding what to do

No one can really have an opinion about it because, they aren't in the relationship too!

So don't let what others say bother you

And if you are REALLY in a sticky situation (the relationship is 50% good 50% bad)

Ask yourself

Is the 50% bad worth going through to get the 50% good part?

If yes then congrats!

Remember: don't stick around in a relationship that you know isn't getting any better

A Kiss For You!

Love,

KissyNicole

P.S.- No one has to be shunned out of your life if you decide they are not good for you, there always is the option of being just friends :)

Honesty

Why is it so hard for people to be HONEST?

Being honest is almost so rare now a days that I just don't even want to trust anymore

People need to teach their kids when they are young to tell the truth no matter what

Not being honest is where girls get their hearts broken, where people get into even deeper trouble, and where trust is lost for a very long time

It is silly to not be truthful

Even to people you don't know

It's a very admirable quality to have, so start possessing it TODAY


Own up for what you've done, or make someone see the real you, all is possible with telling the truth

Save someone heartbreak over finding out you're a liar by NOT doing it

One thing is certainly agreeable by everyone: 


We all would like some more honesty more often!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Disapproval From Others

Hello again!

This particular subject really affects everyone!

It can be so frustrating when others like family or friends don't approve of the way you want to live when you are perfectly happy!

They should be supportive and should love anything you do but....

We are all not so lucky sometimes

Then how can you deal with this disapproval?

If they are willing to shun you and never speak to you again then hey, they are not worth the effort

If they simply lecture you or act differently in a negative way because of this thing or person then there is something you can do

Come up with valid reasons as to why you want to continue this thing and present them to that person in a non-argumentative way

And if that will not convince them then simply stop talking about this subject which they disapprove of

It avoids an argument and you can find someone else to talk to and confide in

Don't lay all your chips in on one person because when they reject you it will be that much more devastating

Instead confide in more than one person so there will always be a listening ear!

If you can't modify someone else, modify yourself because you are all you have control over


and most importantly make it a good habit to surround yourself with supportive loving people, family or friends!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Bad Situations

I'm going to lay it out for you

If you are in a bad situation that you are miserable being in you have options

Change the situation, move away or get a job so you can leave for example

And if you can't change the situation.....

Make it your decision to stop caring

Things can only effect you as much as you let it

Regain that control and stop caring, stop listening, zone out when this bad situation starts to give you stress

The same thing can only upset you so often

Then after a while when the situation doesn't change and you are still getting upset, then it becomes your fault

Take back the control you deserve

Be happy everyone!

A Kiss For You!

Love,
KissyNicole

Break Up

Wow a break up is so hard to deal with!

It can even be in your favor yet still you find yourself missing that person all the time

It is like your mind thinks in "good" mode when you break up
All you can remember is the good things!!

But honestly there was a break up for a reason

And that reason needs to be accepted and believed to be truth or else your head will go crazy spinning around trying to get that person back

It is a sad thing to deal with but as one goes almost always another follows that makes you happy again :)

Keep hope alive that you will move on and don't try to move on as quickly as possible

Give yourself a good amount of time so that the next relationship isn't flawed by the old one

Email me if you need help during a break up!

A kiss for you! I love you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Your Destiny

Hello!

I haven't written much in the last few days as I have been very sad about Amy Winehouse's death

As much as I hate it I always felt like it was her destiny to be great and then pass to join the other greats that have died young like Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, and Kurt Cobain

They all can finally be in peace and sing together :)

Anyways I could see in her eyes and through her music that she was a tortured soul, as am I

Maybe it was destiny for her to touch the world with her music

Which got me thinking about my own destiny

How about you? Do you feel you were meant to do something?

Hopefully whatever career you have is what you feel deep down you were meant to do, if not, change that immediately!

I believe we were all meant to do something, some talent, some devotion to something that we will have success in no matter what

We must follow that little voice inside us that tells us what we need to do

Find that thing that lights a fire in your heart and never let it go


So although Amy died young, she still showed the world her talent and changed the lives of millions with her music and unique sense of style

That was a HUGE accomplishment, and for that I love her

She will forever motivate me to go for it!

I hope to motivate another.....
And show the world that you aren't alone
And that we all can achieve extraordinary things by following what our heart tells us

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Hello Again ;)

So I haven't been writing posts for a while, sorry!

There have been lots of things to sort out in my head

Relationships, Love, Friends, My Self Worth....

All flooding in at once!

Ever have that feeling?

The feeling where life throws a whole bunch of things your way and your head is just spinning from all the new information

The main thing I want to focus on is our own self worth

I believe a huge part of this comes from our parents and how high up on the pedestal they put us

At a young age if you believe you aren't worth anything, then you keep thinking that

Even if it's in the very back of your mind, it still can be there

And not just parents, anyone who put us down and we accepted it as truth

But listen to where your self worth is coming from, it usually is negative!

Stop that negative process!
We CAN do what we want most in life
and we WILL


nothing is stopping you but yourself!


More on this later!! :)

Hate Nice Relationships

Nice good wonderful but not "perfect" relationships are SO darn hard to let go off

It wasn't all good so you know you have to stop being together

But it wasn't all bad so you feel like letting go of that good part is so painful and difficult to do

It is much easier to let go of an asshole!
You can watch them walk away like "Glad that's over!"

But with these pesky "really good when it was good but bad when it was bad" relationships, they get stuck onto you like super glue

It is like your heart gets ripped in half, into totally equal parts

Like you love this that and the other about the person then there is that one or two things.....
Those things you can not stand

And then you think about breaking up....

This can make you flip flop for months! Even years!

Too bad there isn't a relationship fairy to tell you which decision is the right one for you!

Luckily I'm here to lend a hand to the utterly conflicted!

Remember: Only you can really know what goes on between the two of you so take what others say light hearted 

I am still here for advice anytime! Let me know and I can do my best to help!


A kiss for you!


Love,
KissyNicole
kissynicole2@live.com

Depression Is Conquerable

Depression, actual depression, not just "being sad" is tough
It can consume a person and lead to their death in some cases

And it isn't really talked about all that often

but why? a lot of us have had that really dark time in our lives
this is a some what common thing here!

What is hard though is when you can't get out of it
When you really have lost all hope
Lost friends, lost family, lost everything that ever meant anything to you

People that go through that need help

I have had my own problems with depression for maybe 5 years?
It was such a dark time I can't remember time, a month could feel like years and time was just all a mess
Everything was a mess!

It is the worst place to be in
A kind of prisoner in your own mind
Your negative or numbed out thoughts control you
And they can get this unrelenting hold on your spirit
Like you are not you anymore
Like you died and were no longer there

So awful!

No one should stay stuck in that

The amazing news though is that it can be conquered
And the new outlook on life you will have after will be so much more valuable than people who have not experienced this profound hurdle

The first few steps have to be reaching out to someone, anyone, even a stranger, maybe even me!

You are worth the effort it takes to cure the depression

And it is not as hard as it may seem, I promise

Depression is not this impossible thing to overcome
Don't look at it that way, Look at it in a temporary way like "this is terrible, but it will pass"

Be your own mirror
Look at how you think
Look at how you speak to others
Look at your life

Recognize that, that life is not good for you and that it must change now


You can ask me for help with this issue or check out these two links to great information

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm

You don't have to be "diagnosed" to start trying to help yourself out
But as some advice, when you can not cure yourself, look to outside help like a doctor
Sometimes it's all just your darn hormones acting up in a weird way
But when it's all your thoughts, YOU have the power to change that and get better

Everyone deserves a happy life, everyone!
So start making the steps you need to take and just do it

I've done it and you can too!

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

A Wonderful Thought......

A wonderful thought just popped into my head.....

When striving for your biggest most amazing fantastic dreams that would make you the happiest person alive,

You don't need to know how you will get there

That's the beauty of the universe, it figures out the "how"

You just need to get going

Start going down that road to your goals and all these opportunities will appear

Let's say you got in your car and went on a random road trip to go somewhere amazing
But you didn't know exactly how to get there....
You would check for road signs along the way not try and predict where to turn on your own (we aren't all psychic!)
That's half the fun of life, not knowing!

Quit trying to predict the signs and just get going!!!

A kiss for you!! Email me! Don't be shy! kissynicole2@live.com

Love you always,
KissyNicole

You Are Your Biggest Enemy

Have you ever felt like you are your biggest enemy?


Sometimes we are just so mean to ourselves!


We think bad thoughts about our looks, our way of speaking, and our work performance-just to name a few
We can hold ourselves back from doing the things we really want to
Maybe with words like "Everybody will think I am weird"
Which is so odd because did everybody say "You are so weird if you do that...."


Not really


So why do we want to bully ourselves all the time?
Where does that come from?


It's almost like feeling good about yourself has become so rare in our society


It shouldn't be that way


We shouldn't be so hard on ourselves, it makes us unhappy!!


If you are your own biggest advocate then looking for other people's approval is unnecessary


If you took the time to build yourself up and make yourself feel good then nobody can come in the way of your happiness
Try to stop that pattern of thinking where all you do is tear yourself down
Listen to your thoughts and zone in on those pesky negative ones and replace them with good ones!


Controlling how you think takes practice because we are so stuck in our ways


And none of this is to be ashamed of, we all harshly critizice ourselves! You're not alone


Stop holding a grudge against yourself for making mistakes! We all make mistakes constantly, there's no avoiding that


Love yourself and everyone else will too! (sounds cheesy but it's absolutely true)
People don't want to have to be a mirror instead of a friend and constantly remind you you don't suck


Just love you and be you!


A kiss for you!


Love,
KissyNicole

Parents

Parents can become the number one hindrance when trying to follow your dreams

They should encourage you but sometimes we aren't so lucky

Our parents can be a big obstacle with all their negativity and close mindedness
They can say things like "You can't do that" or "All you'll ever be is..."

That isn't very nice to hear is it?

It can be very difficult to follow your dreams when all you hear is no no no
You can have all the determination but when your constantly hearing no from someone important in your life, that can really put a downer on things

But you know what?

Their opinion doesn't matter when it is something you love

Never listen to anyone that tells you "you can't" because in all reality they can't and they are trying to project that onto you
Only truly happy people encourage others to be happy too
So if you are around unhappy people, guess what, you will be too

Let them be unhappy, let them do what they want, let them say whatever they want

But you will not be the audience anymore

Let you be your biggest cheerleader and you can make your dreams come true

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Help Someone

Why do people love to hate on one another and make each other become isolated?

It doesn't get anyone anywhere

It just makes someone else's life suck a little more

But come on we are all people, going through the same shit

We have the potential to change someone's life
Start lending a hand to someone who needs it
Show someone you care
Show them they aren't alone
Become a shoulder to cry on

That can mean so much to someone who needs it...

I'm here to cry to, talk to, ask stuff to, whatever

I love you all :)

A kiss for you!
Email me <3

Love,
KissyNicole

Art

Art is such a great thing!

It can let people connect without even speaking a word
It can create a feeling rather than just a thought
It is a universal language

And on top of it art is so therapeutic for you to do!

When you take your feelings or thoughts and pull them out onto your art,
It is like taking them away from your mind

You can forget about a break up for a while or something else that pains you

It can help you see your mind from the outside

And that right there can help you cope with anything

Try it!

Take a piece of paper and draw absolutely anything you like and it doesn't have to look amazing, just as long as you feel the art rather than simply "do" it

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

Present

One thing you must do to be happy is stay in the present

It is extremely easy to get stuck on the past or get stuck in the "what if" of the future
(I know I have plenty of times....)

That will leave you wanting more always because you can't change either of those

What you can change is the present

The present is right here ready to be mold into whatever you like

Sure future goals are great but not when it becomes obsession and fearful
And sure remembering the past is nice sometimes but again not when it's an obsession

How do you stay in the present? It can be quite tricky

Take a look at what is happening right now
You could be listening to a song, working, playing with your dog, just breathing
Focus on that exact thing you are doing
Don't let anything else come into mind

When you start to practice this and get a firm hold on your thoughts then you can be a much happier and calmer person
Focusing on one thing at a time helps to center yourself immensely

A kiss for you!

Remember you can not have control over the past or future but you do have control over the now

Love,
KissyNicole

Changes

Changes can be scary
They can come out of no where
It is a very surreal feeling when you know things will never be the same again

That can be hard to deal with sometimes
The main reason people struggle with change is they don't want to accept it

Once you accept the change, you don't have to like it necessarily, but just accept things are now totally different
That will help you cope with that strong change

Imagine your new life with this change (try to think positively)
Look at the change as it came for a reason, maybe you weren't doing something right?

Change gives us a little push into a certain direction
Figure out where this change is pushing you to go
Maybe it was made to make you a stronger person
Maybe to show you that lover wasn't right for you
Maybe to show you that job isn't for you
Maybe to push you into a better life

Think of change in a positive way like "Great! Now I can start a new chapter in my life"
The past is over now you can move on to being a happier, better, you :)

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

JK Rowling

JK Rowling is so right!
We do talk about success a lot more than failure when failure is the building block of success!

We have to fail to succeed, it must happen
We have to hit the lowest of lows in our life to realize there is nothing left to lose
Once there is nothing left for you to lose, you become a risk taker, you're reborn into a courageous person with a new outlook on life.

This gives you unlimited ambition and determination

Losing everything you have and hitting the lowest point in your life is a fantastic thing to happen to you because you can only go up from there

That will liberate you to do great things in your life, which is the best gift for yourself, your friends, and the world

Liberation comes from overcoming fear, conquer your fear and your free

Free to live the life you want!

Embrace your failures and be free you guys! It is quite amazing

A kiss for you!

Love,
KissyNicole

What's The Worst?

What is the worst that can happen?
Really think about that.....
If you take a risk doing something what is the worst that can happen?
Somebody goes Saw style on you and kills you because you quit your job and opened a new business?
Hmmm.... Not very likely, sorry

Stop dreaming up worst case scenarios just to get out of being truly happy
Take a risk and enjoy the benefits
or fail and learn from your mistake

That's all folks, super simple, super easy!
Not everyone is out to get you!

Success doesn't happen without a lot of rejection and failing, it has to be that way or everybody would be succeeding in life because it was so easy right? right

Be the one that was courageous enough to go for what they want full speed!

"Be reckless enough to gamble all or nothing to follow your dreams" - John Galliano

This is your life! You're in control, have fun with the opportunity you've been given, which is being alive at this moment!

A kiss for you! Ask me any kind of questions by emailing me at kissynicole2@live.com

Love,
KissyNicole